Crowning Connections: Spark in You with Lori Beth Finley

Rob Clemons, GM of Monarch Roofing and host of the Crowning Connections podcast, had the honor of meeting Alabama Theatre of Myrtle Beach’s newest cast member, Lori Beth Finley. It was a fun atmosphere to interviewing on the stage at the theatre following their 2022 opening week!

Getting to know Lori Beth, Rob got to talk about NASCAR, Rap and the secret recipe to keep vocal cords healthy! This North Carolina native’s journey to success includes singing at church and racecar tracks to moving to Tennessee solo by age of 15! Now she has brought her family back to the Carolinas and we are the better for it.

This Dynamic Singer, Wife and Mother also uses her platform to speak to hearts about mental health and finding freedom in an accepting community. We hope you enjoy the spark within this Superstar as much as we have. Be sure to get tickets to see Lori Beth Finley at the Alabama Theatre. Enjoy the #Podcast. Listen In!

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Chapters:
Newest Addition to The Alabama Theatre of Myrtle Beach
Opening Night Feeling
In the mix: Secret Recipe
NASCAR
Journey to Success
Pride, Positivity and Parents
Singing is About Connection
Mental Health and Grace
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Rob Clemons
Welcome to Crown Connections with Rob Clemons. It is a beautiful day in Myrtle Beach, South Carolina. We’re actually at the Alabama Theatre for this one. So I’m super excited today because just such an amazing setting, we have an amazing guest with us. And a lot of people come to the area they’re thinking, “What can I do all my vacation? I got some money as burn a hole in my pocket. I need to go do something.” And one of the best things you can do is come to the Alabama Theatre here. I’ve actually got the pleasure of having Lori Beth Finley with me today. Lori Beth, welcome.

Lori Beth Finley
Thank you. It’s so good to be here.

Rob Clemons
Yeah.

Lori Beth Finley
Thrilled to be in South Carolina.

Rob Clemons
Well, it’s amazing, right. And we’re going to talk about how you got here. I do have a full confession to make. My sister’s name is Lori. So it was so it’s very natural for me to stop at Lori. Lori Beth. It doesn’t sound right, but.

Lori Beth Finley
You can call me L.B.. A lot of people call me by my initials.

Rob Clemons
L.B. that’s kind of cool sound. It sounds like a rapper name.

Lori Beth Finley
I know. That’s why I’m like, so it’s L.B. Actually, it’s not Lori Beth. It makes me feel like cool. And like, you know.

Rob Clemons
I think it’s kind of cool myself. Do you think you could do? Are you a rapper? Could you freestyle some stuff for us today?

Lori Beth Finley
I doubt it. I’ll leave that up to my toddler. She can freestyle for you all day.

Rob Clemons
A lot of Gaga googoo stuff. Yeah. All right. I got you. Well, hey, it is great to have you here today. I know that last week was opening night at the Alabama Theatre. How was that? I mean, what was it a crazy crowd.

Lori Beth Finley
It was crazy. So I’m the new girl here. Um, you know, this cast has been together for I mean, I can’t even tell you how many years I know. Jason and Chris Cox. They’re married. Jason’s on the front of the program there. There it is. And they’ve been here for 17 years. So there’s a lot of, you know, veterans I’m coming into. And so being the new girl walking out our opening night usually is, they let me know it’s consists of Season Pass holders.

Rob Clemons
Okay.

Lori Beth Finley
And so the crowd was full of Season Pass holders. And I was just like, how the judgment? Oh, judgment. I’m the new girl. Yeah, um, you know, but it was great. They were very accepting. I didn’t feel like the oddball at all. I felt right at home.

Rob Clemons
Right. Okay.

Lori Beth Finley
And they were so energetic. I think people are just like, ready to get out of house.

Rob Clemons
Yeah, yeah.

Lori Beth Finley
It’s been a long like, what, two years almost where we’ve been in this pandemic situation, this COVID thing. So I think people were just ready to get out and be entertained and see each other again. You know.

Rob Clemons
Absolutely. Do you feel like so? So let’s go into that feeling. So this was your first night performing at this theater? Right?

Lori Beth Finley
Right. Yeah.

Rob Clemons
Long history of performances, and we’ll talk. So what’s it feel like when you you know, when everything comes out, you see all these these faces out here? Are you wanting to get nervous? Do you feel like you’re gonna throw up? I mean, I’ve heard this before. What’s it feel like? Or is it just confidence.

Lori Beth Finley
So, I will say I’m opening night at this theater, I was probably more nervous than I have been in years, years and years and years. Normally an opening night for like I was on the General Jackson Showboat in Nashville for 11 years. So once I got about year, three, four, it’s like, ah opening night, whatever, and you rehearse so much. People typically don’t understand how much rehearsal goes into a big production like this. You’ve got lights, you’ve got sound, you’ve got a full band with horn section. I mean, there’s a lot that goes into it. Choreography. And so, you do it over and over and over like two, three times a day. And so it just kind of becomes mechanical in your body. And so in Nashville, it kind of stopped hitting me. And I missed that magic, almost. I missed that rush of the nervousness.

Rob Clemons
Yeah

Lori Beth Finley
Honestly. It just became so robotic. But then opening night here, almost I wanted to throw up. To be quite honest.

Rob Clemons
And that means it mattered to you. It’s even more endearing.

Lori Beth Finley
It was. And I caught myself just like tears in my eyes a few times, because I was just like, “Oh, my God, I’m back.”

Rob Clemons
Yeah.

Lori Beth Finley
Like I’m so back.

Rob Clemons
It’s pretty cool when you feel that good about something that maybe it’s hard not to get emotional. Well, give me an idea and anybody listening, because one of the big things with Crowning Connections is I want to get behind, you know, just how hard you have to work to be a success, right? Whether you’re, you know, working in fast food or in a restaurant or at a corporation, it doesn’t matter, you have to work hard to be the best at what you do. How many, you know, to do any one of these routines. How many times have you practiced it before a show actually starts? You know.

Lori Beth Finley
Um, how much time do you have?

Rob Clemons
Right.

Lori Beth Finley
I would say for this show, particularly, and this is a very large production show. Variety show too. We probably have done this before we opened at least 25-30 times. Okay, straight through and it’s a two hour show. Wow. And most days, we did it twice in one day. So we would do like, run the show, you know, from 12 to two, full out, and maybe no costumes, but just run your your mark, your blocking what we call.

Rob Clemons
Sure.

Lori Beth Finley
And get your lyrics and your harmonies and things right and we would do like a little lunch dinner break, and then we’d come back and do it all over again. So there were a lot of late nights. You know, I would get home at 10 or 11 at night. You know, my kids in bed, thank God already. But it’s a lot of work. You know, a lot of times I don’t think that you know, the audience really might understand what goes behind all this, but it’s a team effort.

Rob Clemons
I was gonna say the easier, easier make you make it look to them means the harder you’ve been working.

Lori Beth Finley
That’s exactly right. You all have to work together. The thing about being on any stage in a production like this is it’s not about you in particular. It’s about your team and your cast. And it’s my responsibility. You know, say Rodney, one of our cast members, fantastic singer. It’s my job when I’m singing harmonies on his song, to not pull focus to me and to lend what we call lend focus to him and make sure that my backups are supporting what he’s doing instead of pulling from what he’s doing. So we really have to, to bond and to make it a team effort.

Rob Clemons
It’s gotta be trust, you know, he doesn’t want like the backup vocalist like out shining and stuff so.

Lori Beth Finley
That’s a little difficult sometimes.

Rob Clemons
Ready to do your solo performance right now on the back.

Lori Beth Finley
Wait, I see a spotlight.

Rob Clemons
Oh, that’s awesome. Well, so as far as your your… got a whole season in front of you, right? It’s right. And the Alabama Theatre. I know they do amazing Christmas show. Yeah. And my mom’s the type. So we’ve gone to this show. It’s beautiful. My mom is the type where she’ll be like, I like him. He so funny. And it’s always she’s got her favorite always. And always can predict who the favorites gonna be before it’s over. But it’s a fun thing. Do you have like a favorite time of the year? Is there like a certain one that you’re like, I can’t wait till Halloween. So we get our whatever it is.

Lori Beth Finley
I do love Christmas. I love doing Christmas shows. And what’s funny about it is, again, the audience probably wouldn’t notice know this. But we start rehearsing for Christmas in October.

Rob Clemons
Wow.

Lori Beth Finley
Like October 1, even sometimes, so way before Halloween even gets here, before Thanksgiving. So we’re like in the Christmas spirit. Before anybody else. We’re ready.

Rob Clemons
Right?

Lori Beth Finley
And I have missed that over the last couple years not doing you know shows like this. But Christmas for me is just the it’s the my favorite. It really is the best. It gets you in the Spirit. And it’s magical. It’s magical, how you can connect, you know, you see families coming together and you can connect that for them. You’re there. You’re kind of their memory, you know, on their Christmas vacation or whatever. 100%

Rob Clemons
100% absolutely.

Lori Beth Finley
I love being that for people.

Rob Clemons
That’s so cool. You know, and another great thing about this show and I’ve noticed is in the times I’ve been here you guys mix in a little bit of all kinds of entertainment. So you’re gonna go fast with the music, slow with the music. You got some humor in there for sure.

Lori Beth Finley
Slim Chance.

Rob Clemons
Yeah. Right.

Lori Beth Finley
He’s too funny.

Rob Clemons
Yeah, he’s just got this stuff. You ever find yourself just like laughing backstage at the things?

Lori Beth Finley
I do. But I’m the new girl. Yeah. And so I’m the only one laughing.

Rob Clemons
They’re like, “Oh, we’ve heard this one before.” But yeah.

Lori Beth Finley
I’m like, Haha. Oh, sorry. Yeah, I He’s hilarious to me. And to be quite frank. Nothing. It gets me the talent here because it’s incredible. But my husband was over the moon to hear I was getting to work with Slim Chance. Oh really is like the biggest fan. He’s like, you actually get to work with him and see him backstage.

Rob Clemons
He was like Starstruck and looking for autographs.

Lori Beth Finley
So he is so excited to get to hang out with Slim Chance.

Rob Clemons
That’s really cool. Shout out to Slim Chance there.

Lori Beth Finley
He’s a super cool guy.

Rob Clemons
That’s awesome. Well, so you’re in the singing game. You’ve been doing this for a long time? Yeah, um, I know that sometimes when I when I’ve done a lot of speaking during the day I get home and my voice is sore.

Lori Beth Finley
Yeah.

Rob Clemons
How do you as a singer? I mean, what like, Is that a challenge at all? Or is your voice or your vocal cords just worked out? I mean, what’s it like.

Lori Beth Finley
Very much, it can be a challenge. When I was in the business for as long as I was just solid, like I knew every single year, “Okay, you’re going to be off for two or three weeks in January.” That’s your time to go to Hawaii or go take a vacation. But from literally it would be like February 14, through the end of the year. You are busy doing six nights a week, sometimes two shows a day. And that’s your that becomes your life. So I think that my vocal cords just became like.,.. they are muscle, so it just became like worked out and conditioned to get through that kind of stress. I can say after being away from this for like the last two years. I am noticing some challenges and it could be age too, but we won’t talk about them. I have noticed it’s a little more difficult to like, get my voice warmed back up again. Okay. And then like, you know, yesterday, or what was it last week? We did a couple runs before we opened. And opening was a little more difficult because we had been singing all day. Oh, yeah. And then we sing it, you know, again at night before and it’s just like, so I have a couple of concoctions that I that I use.

Rob Clemons
This is what I want to hear. People need know.

Lori Beth Finley
Yeah. So it’s not they don’t taste good.

Rob Clemons
Oh, well, that’s, that’s too bad, but, but we’ll still try them.

Lori Beth Finley
There’s a mixture of now has to be local honey, so that you get like the allergens, right.

Rob Clemons
Gotcha.

Lori Beth Finley
Local honey, cayenne pepper, and lemon juice.

Rob Clemons
Okay. Okay.

Lori Beth Finley
And then and you want to do like from a fresh squeezed lemon. So you you like warm all that up in like a pot on the stove, and then pour into a jar, whatever. And you take shots of it.

Rob Clemons
No way.

Lori Beth Finley
And it is hot. It’s hot. And it’s just, it’s sweet. It’s yucky. And it’s thick. And it’s Surbhi. But for some reason, I learned that like a talent show when I was like 12 years old.

Rob Clemons
Wow.

Lori Beth Finley
And this older, you know, performer came up to me and she goes, “Honey, let me tell you the trick.” And I’ve used it ever since and it genuinely works.

Rob Clemons
That’s a great. I mean, this is honestly a great tip because, and I thought you were gonna say when you were saying horrible I was thinking you would say put some beats in. Oh, honey, that’s not that bad. Right. Right.

Lori Beth Finley
But the cayenne pepper gives you that kick. Oh, it’s a lot. Right. And and I would Yeah, unfortunately, I’ve been living in Nashville for a while. So a swift kick of whiskey. Really.

Rob Clemons
A little bit of whiskey never heard anybody and we know this.

Lori Beth Finley
It’ll really help the vocal cords sometimes. And so…

Rob Clemons
Just one shot. I don’t want to get a…

Lori Beth Finley
Right. Because then you can’t remember your lyrics. And you’re done. That’s never so you know, just a little bit like a little taste. Yeah. And I’ve even mixed that in my concoction before, just something about that will just help a vocal cords. But the very best thing around the board is sleep.

Rob Clemons
Okay, yeah.

Lori Beth Finley
And so that’s what makes it challenging when we’ve been rehearsing all day, then we do a show at night. And then we got to be back back for another rehearsal at 10am. And do it all again the next day. And so you you kind of lose, you know, the hours of sleep that you need. You really do need a good eight hours. o sleep is the absolute best thing.

Rob Clemons
Right? You know, they always say it like everybody, no matter what you’re doing, get your sleep and then it’s so hard to do that.

Lori Beth Finley
It’s hard.

Rob Clemons
It’s hard to eight hours. It’s like you got to practice to get it out.

Lori Beth Finley
Are you kidding me? I would love eight hours.

Rob Clemons
Well, you and you got a newly born baby. Right? So eight hours. Long gone, right?

Lori Beth Finley
Oh, it’s gone. I won’t see that again for another 16 years.

Rob Clemons
Maybe eight hours a week might be new goal right. Okay, gotcha. Yeah, I was gonna say like so this thing just to go back. I’m going to use this this trick that you just gave me because sometimes after I’ve been talking all day, it sounds like I’m trying to do like some DJ voice and like, “Hey, guys, good morning.”

Lori Beth Finley
You raspy I do the same thing. They say it works for me because I’m an I’m an alto I’m not much of a soprano. Okay. And so used to when my voice would get tired like that people were like, “Oh, the rasp really works.” Oh, your voice because you’re like this.

Rob Clemons
Kind of like a like a little seductive kind sound.

Lori Beth Finley
Oh that’s sexy. I’m like, Oh my gosh, like Kermit the Frog? Like, what do you call sexy?

Rob Clemons
Like, no, do I have to make this voice sound like this all the time? What do you do? Right?

Lori Beth Finley
You have to try it.

Rob Clemons
That’s awesome stuff. Well, let’s talk a little bit about your, you know, kind of how you got into this business. You know, obviously, you’ve been doing this for a number of years. I saw something that really excited me. So I’m going to blow up your spot a little bit here because I want to talk about this. So used to do like some singing like maybe like the Star Spangled Banner or national anthem at the NASCAR events that your dad was at, right?

Lori Beth Finley
I did.

Rob Clemons
That’s so cool. Are you a NASCAR fan?

Lori Beth Finley
I am. I haven’t. I hate to say this. I haven’t watched it in a while.

Rob Clemons
Okay. All right.

Lori Beth Finley
Um, as far as on TV, my dad still races. He does like short track racing.

Rob Clemons
Okay, cool. Yeah.

Lori Beth Finley
So he was doing Bush Series when I was born. And then he did Craftsman Trucks for a while. Well, and so I mean, you guys, my dad is 65 and he’s still getting in a race car.

Rob Clemons
That’s so cool.

Lori Beth Finley
My mom wants to kill him. How are you still doing this to me? Yeah. Um, but he’s, that his best passion.

Rob Clemons
You know, the coolest thing about NASCAR though is this. You know, you’ll see these guys and they retire.

Lori Beth Finley
Right.

Rob Clemons
But I mean, gosh, there are Dale Earnhardt Jr. He did a race last year in the xfinity series.

Lori Beth Finley
Yes.

Rob Clemons
If not mistaken. So it’s cool just to see these guys. So more power to your dad, man. Age doesn’t matter.

Lori Beth Finley
It does not matter. And my brother, I mean, we’re all kind of in the business. My brother builds racecar parts. He just sent a bunch of stuff down before Daytona and so he has his own business and builds racecar parts. Okay. And so he we’re all in the business. It’s like like family business were in.

Rob Clemons
Who’s the coolest man, NASCAR guy, you are met? Like, is there ever a time it could you give me somebody from NASCAR you met that you’re just like, “oh my god, Rob.”

Lori Beth Finley
Dale Earnhardt, Jr.

Rob Clemons
No way.

Lori Beth Finley
I was 16. So it was like the height of his career, you know? And he was the hot guy.

Rob Clemons
Oh, he’s so hot. No. Sorry. I wasn’t really thinking like that. Okay, fine.

Lori Beth Finley
I know, right?

Rob Clemons
Would want to be funny if we just talked about Dale Earnhardt Jr. for the rest of this time?

Lori Beth Finley
Yeah. I’d be fine with that.

Rob Clemons
How much time do have do we have like? So, tell me, what was it like looking into his eyes? I need to know.

Lori Beth Finley
I was gazing. I was dreaming. I was a 16 year old girl. So you could only imagine how excited I was. But I was singing at Martinsville. And I was singing the national anthem. I think that was my very first one on national television. And so I’m down in the pits and my dad knows everybody. So we’re walking around talking to crew chiefs and things like that and, and somebody comes up my dad, they’re like, you know, we hear that Lori Beth is huge Dale Earnhardt Jr. Fan. Let’s get her over there. And he’s like, Oh, God, she’ll die. She won’t be able to sing. And so they got me over there. And I’ve got a still have the picture in a frame. Not hanging up any longer. But I still haven’t a frame at home. And I just was like, I couldn’t believe it was real.

Rob Clemons
Wow.

Lori Beth Finley
That he was he was celebrity for me. Oh

Rob Clemons
Oh my gosh. I mean for all of us.

Lori Beth Finley
He was celebrity for me. And I grew up my dad was Dale Earnhardt, his you know, he loved his dad and Dale Earnhardt fan. And, you know, I remember the day he passed it, like tore my dad apart. So that’s just that’s just how I grew up. They were royalty to us, you know.

Rob Clemons
Unbelievable. That’s so cool. I mean, like, I didn’t think I thought you’re gonna drop off some obscure names, but I’ll look that up later. Yeah.

Lori Beth Finley
I’m telling my age a little bit. Yeah, I love dale earnhardt jr. That’s

Rob Clemons
incredible. That’s totally cool. So I didn’t mean to get you off your tribe. But yeah, so tell us how did you get to this level that you’re at right now.

Lori Beth Finley
So I did start singing at races. My dad with race, and he knew all the track owners just from racing there. And so I was singing at church a little bit here and there. I grew up in a very small meeting, like 20 people in the church, small church, Southern Baptist. And I’d get up and sing every now and then when I was a kid, and I just as we watched the race every Sunday. That was our religion. You do not miss the race on Sunday.

Rob Clemons
Oh, yeah.

Lori Beth Finley
You know, after church, of course. And so I would watch it and, and my, the height for me was who was singing the national anthem. That was what I wanted to see every Sunday. And so I went to my Daddy, and I’m like, I want to do that at the race track. And I was 12.

Rob Clemons
Man.

Lori Beth Finley
And he goes, Well, and listen, I don’t come from a musical family at all. I don’t know where my talents came from that will obviously God, he completely blessed me for all of it. But I don’t come from that background. And my dad is so critical of me. Like I can’t even explain. He knows what he’s talking about your dad.

Rob Clemons
Is your Dad your biggest critic, would you say.

Lori Beth Finley
My biggest critic, my biggest fan, but my biggest critic. Absolutely. He just wants to see me succeed. That’s awesome. So I went to him. And he was like, well, you’re gonna have to, you’re gonna have to practice it with me and let me hear it because it’s, you’re gonna, if you’re gonna be on TV, it’s gonna be perfect. It’s gonna be right. And for a whole year, he made me practice until I had it to the standard that he thought it should be.

Rob Clemons
Wow.

Lori Beth Finley
He didn’t want me to make it fancy. He’s like, sing it straight. Because when people sing the anthem, they you know, people want to sing along. It’s their country song they want to sing along. So don’t throw licks in there. Don’t jazz it up.

Rob Clemons
Drag it out. Like… huhhhhh.

Lori Beth Finley
Yeah, when you get to “Land of the Free, Home of the Brave,” like, drag it out, make it long and big.

Rob Clemons
You get paid by the minute. What is going on? Yeah, yeah.

Lori Beth Finley
I did it all for free. So he made me practice for a year and then I got to sing it Martinsville like on TV.

Rob Clemons
Wow.

Lori Beth Finley
Now my dad raced in Asheboro, North Carolina Caraway Speedway. Short track racing there. And so I really started practicing there and became Miss Caraway Speedway, and then I would also sing, so I was giving out trophies and sing in every Saturday night.

Rob Clemons
you’re double threat at that point. Both things.

Lori Beth Finley
Were the time go. So I was doing that every weekend. And that’s really where I started was also was race tracks.

Rob Clemons
So you kind of started from there and then just started growing out and yeah, like a little bit higher level, a little higher level.

Lori Beth Finley
I did and I never really became interested in like, quote unquote, musical theater. I never did like choir and in school, and everything, but I joined a band at 15 and performed on the bar scene in Greensboro, North Carolina. Which my parents had to go with me too because obviously I was underage.

Rob Clemons
Yeah.

Lori Beth Finley
So they would just sit and watch me, you know, sing in a bar full, you know, cool people. We’ll call him cool people.

Rob Clemons
Some cooler than others. I got you.

Lori Beth Finley
So that’s I did that and I really honestly, you know, people talk about their teenage years, I didn’t really have a lot of time to get in trouble. I know I wasn’t a perfect kid. But like my parents just, they saw my passion for music. And they kept me busy, kept me going for it. And so then when I was 16, just I was a cheerleader in high school, playing tennis, and I was doing the bar gigs and the racetracks on the weekend. And this guy calls out of nowhere from Pigeon Forge, and he’s like, I got, I don’t know how I got my CD. “I got your CD, and I want you to come sing in my show.” And that is literally how show business started for me. So I moved away from home at 17. Okay. My parents had to put an apartment in their name for it to be legal. And then they had to sign guardianship over to the manager of the theater so that I had someone there. They went back to Troy, North Carolina, I stayed in Pigeon Forge, Tennessee by myself, finished high school, did theaters there for a while and then moved on to Nashville after a few years.

Rob Clemons
And that’s cool. And so you were in Nashville until just recently?

Lori Beth Finley
Right.

Rob Clemons
…to Myrtle Beach. Now, you told me kind of a cool story about just how you got back here. If you’ll share that.

Lori Beth Finley
Yeah, we they had the the casting director here at the Alabama Theater had been calling me for a number of years.

Rob Clemons
Let me ask you about that.

Lori Beth Finley
Yeah, yeah.

Rob Clemons
So had they heard about you? I mean, had they been to a show?

Lori Beth Finley
Good question. Good question. I forgot the connection there. So I was on the General Jackson show about Nashville, which I spoke about. The same production company that produces this show. It’s um, Gaylord Entertainment or Opryland entertainment. I believe I’m sorry, I don’t remember the name. But they were producing the show, on the showboat that I was doing when I first started there in 2006.

Rob Clemons
Gotcha.

Lori Beth Finley
I think it was. And so they produced this show. And when they left producing that show, another company came in and stayed there and worked for the other company. So they remembered me from working with me there. And that’s why they started calling me because they had worked with me before.

Rob Clemons
Okay, gotcha.

Lori Beth Finley
And so same casting director and everything and so she she started calling me for like, literally 10 years straight. And I was like, Oh, um, you know, had the stars in my eyes. And I had been singing around town and on Broadway in Nashville, which is like the infamous bar scene there. And had really started making a name for myself and you know, singing background vocals for some, some really cool artists and going on tours and things like that. And I got an artist development deal, management deal, booking deal. I got all these things and was on my way to the top and COVID hit, you know, and things just happen and, and I was feeling like, you know what, I just feel like, it’s time to go back home. But I didn’t know what I was gonna be able to do. And I had this kid and we had no help and, and so we, we came down here, my husband and I brought brought our kid down to Myrtle Beach for a vacation since my family’s from North Carolina, about two and a half hours away. We all met down here for a vacation. And my husband and I had a chance to have a date night which was obviously few and far between. I don’t think we’ve had one since. But we were I was like, You know what, let me call the casting director and let’s go see the Alabama Theater they’ve called me for years. I’ve never been to the show but I heard it’s great. It’s award winning. Plug.

Rob Clemons
Plug.

Lori Beth Finley
So we got tickets, came down, I was blown away. And I just was like I got that that little feeling in my in my chest again of like, “oh my god, like I missed this.” And I hadn’t been singing because it COVID. And so I just was like “I missed this so much.” Like to be part of something like that would be super cool, right? And my husband was like my you know, they’ll call you again one day, it’ll it’ll happen. No joke, that was in June of last year. And they called me November and so my husband’s like see you got to put the energy out there. You mentioned that you wanted to come back to this you wanted to be closer to home again. You want to perform again on a huge stage, you know with a huge production. He was like I really think that you threw the energy out there and you attracted it and I feel the same way, I really do feel that way.

Rob Clemons
You know it’s funny we were talking about this before this started, you know about the energies you put out into the world and sometimes energies you get back from that, so.

Lori Beth Finley
It’s a huge deal. Yeah, and I’m I’m working on it. I mean I still have my bad days I’m human but I’m trying to throw that positive energy out and and you know, just be a kind human to others I was always raised like treat people how you want to be treated. And I really think that we can all gain from doing that and just throw that positivity out there and give people the space to be human and give them that grace and that mercy.

Rob Clemons
Absolutely. You know my staff over at Monarch we talk about you know positivity and they hear so much they get tired of hearing it but it’s like we positivity. It’s a big thing. Professionalism, Enthusiasm. I call it P.E. P.. I do I always ask them, like you guys have P.E.P. and they’re like, “Yeah,” but it’s not like pep rally, pep. Yeah, exactly. So we like it. But so you know, I will tell you that, um, you know, we talked about positive words, we talk about the things that you can put out there and the things that you put into the world. From your perspective, what is the thing that you feel like you’re proudest of that’s happened to you or something that yeah, it was there anyone that accomplishment? You’re just like, wow, this one stands out to me is just super proud.

Lori Beth Finley
Um, oh, gosh, other than being a mom?

Rob Clemons
Of course.

Lori Beth Finley
Yeah, of course. Um, I never thought I would say that either. Because I was not fond of having a baby. When I had the baby. Uh, goodness, that’s a really good question. I would just say, any time that I’ve been a part of a show or a loved singing, like, John Rich, that was really cool. Touring with Kimberly Locke from American Idol, I got to see, I got to see the whole country like on someone else’s dime, even you know, which was cool. We stayed in the coolest hotels and, you know, got to really wine and dine with some of the coolest people. But this is really funny and really has nothing to do with my singing career. But I was singing at a gig with John Rich at his house. If you have not seen John Rich’s house, Google, it is insane.

Rob Clemons
Okay. All right.

Lori Beth Finley
So he has a bar in his house that he holds events. Now he holds like really great charity events for like St. Jude and things like that.

Rob Clemons
Nice.

Lori Beth Finley
And so we were doing this gig. And you know, he was on that show The Apprentice. And so he was on there with Lil John. Right. So “Turn down for what?” Yeah, I’m a country singer, but I love rap from time to time, believe it or not. And he was there. Lil John was there. And they had like these cages and I was I was young, like, I’m feeling it. I’m like, so excited to be there. And I get it and I start dancing and Lil John comes over and hugs me and he’s like, “Great job singing earlier baby.” And I’m just like, “Oh my god. I can die now.”

Rob Clemons
Was, alright. But no, I just got asked though, was Lil John did he come over like, like he saw like you seen in the videos where you’re like, “Okay,” or was he more ‘Hello, nice job singing.”

Lori Beth Finley
I wish he would have. Proper.

Rob Clemons
Okay.

Lori Beth Finley
He was like a gentleman. He was a true gentleman. He was very complimentary and just actually cared less what he said. I was just like, “Oh, my God, he’s touching me!”

Rob Clemons
Starstruck, right.

Lori Beth Finley
I’ve always said I want that song played at my funeral, but…

Rob Clemons
It’s very like this. Clearly, everybody’s song for their funeral man thinking like 1,2,3…

Lori Beth Finley
Turned down for what? So anyway, that was one of my proudest moments. However, I love that I can make my parents proud. That’s still like my number one goal. I mean, I’m in my 30s. And I’m still, I still call my parents almost every single day. And I’m like, “when you guys come in to see the show?” And I just, I, I just love it. I love the twinkle in their eye when they’re when that make them proud.

Rob Clemons
It’s really cool, you know, and sometimes, you know that feeling, and it’s also where the parents like probably to discipline you when you’re younger. All they had to do is say, “Well, we’re just so disappointed you.”

Lori Beth Finley
Oh, right. Crushed. Yeah. Like I’ll ground myself.

Rob Clemons
No dinner for me tonight guys.

Lori Beth Finley
I’ll take my phone away. Have my phone. Have all of it.

Rob Clemons
You go stand in the corner for a while. Yeah, I got you right.

Lori Beth Finley
Yeah. Weep in fact. Weeping.

Rob Clemons
That’s funny. What would you say your singing styles like do you have or do you have anybody that you ever like? I want to sing like that.

Lori Beth Finley
Funny enough. Um, obviously I love Carrie Underwood and I always get handed her songs which is a huge compliment. She’s tough. Has a vocal range, really great vocal range. But after singing with Kimberly Locke for so long, and that was R&B. I love R&B I’m obviously grew up a country singer. But then I found this like passion for R&B and just the soul behind it. And so singing with her, her voice just we would be in soundcheck and she was so effortless at what she did. And she still is. And I will just be sitting back there a background singer, just in all and like, I have got to do that. Like I want to be in the front like that singing effortlessly, you know, just reaching people. Yeah. And she’s she’s got a huge advocate heart and just like, she’s so kind and really once you know, all There they go again. I told them not to do that.

Rob Clemons
Shout out to them early share for like, run internationally I’ve heard anyway.

Lori Beth Finley
So no, I really aspire to sing effortlessly like her. But to also be able to just connect with your audience at her connection to me was magical.

Rob Clemons
I think that’s probably the biggest part. If you can connect with the audience in itself. It makes so much of a difference.

Lori Beth Finley
Yeah, let them let them know you’re human just because you’re in sequins and rhinestones and you’re covered head to toe. And, you know, have your hair’s all fixed and makeups. All done. It doesn’t make you any less human. Yeah, absolutely.

Rob Clemons
Absolutely. Now this, that’s great. One thing I wanted to do today, too, you know, you and I talked a little beforehand. And you talked about, you know, my father was military. He was in the Army back in Vietnam, and then he ran Air Force later as a officer. You talked about your husband a little bit. He was in the military, Navy?

Lori Beth Finley
He was Navy. Yeah.

Rob Clemons
Talk to me about that a little bit. You know, just kind of some of the you talked about some things you’re passionate about. Can we talk about that story? A little bit?

Lori Beth Finley
Yeah. So my husband was in the Navy for 10 years. I didn’t get to the part where he got out of the Navy to go to the Army.

Rob Clemons
Okay.

Lori Beth Finley
So he wanted to do like special ops. Unfortunately, he was told, Oh, you’re too old. He was 31.

Rob Clemons
Oh, wow. The old age of 31.

Lori Beth Finley
Isn’t it crazy.

Rob Clemons
It’s like sports, I guess.

Lori Beth Finley
But he still had this passion for it. That’s what he wanted to do. And so he kept going for it. And it didn’t work out. Things just got a little squirrely with what was going on, you know. If you know anything about military, well, if you watch the football game, the Navy against the Army, there’s rivalry.

Rob Clemons
Yes, on. Yeah.

Lori Beth Finley
So it wasn’t necessarily… he wasn’t welcomed with open arms. He went to the Army from the Navy. But anyway, he ended up getting out of the Army, we got married. And he joined the army two weeks later, actually. And so he finally just was like, I think I’m ready for some civilian life. I think I’m done with this. I have seen my day. He saw a lot, he was overseas and so he saw a lot. And when he finally came home from everything he was he was a different person. And I started asking questions, but you know, I had cousins and my grandfather’s, you know, served in the wars. And I kind of knew just not to ask too many questions. Because I couldn’t understand what he had, at all, possibly what he had seen. And so I eased up a little bit. And I just noticed, like, his sleep patterns were really disruptive. He wasn’t sleeping. And then the next day, he was, he just wasn’t present. Literally, he wasn’t present. And he would, we’d be in the car, like going to Walmart that we’d been going to Nashville for months. And he would miss his turn. I was like, I thought we were going to Walmart, and he would be like, “I’m sorry, I zoned out.” And so I started noticing just those patterns of like, something’s going on here.

Rob Clemons
Yeah.

Lori Beth Finley
And so after many uncomfortable conversations, you know, and I was pregnant at the time to, he finally started reaching out to the VA, for some, some help with some things and realized, you know, there’s some, there’s PTSD going on, and things like that. And, and he got help, and he sought help, and I’m so proud that he did. And there’s still things that now he will tell me, if there’s moments he’ll go, it’s one of those. It’s one of those times, I’m just recalling something. I don’t mean to put you out, but like you wouldn’t understand. So, um, I don’t really want to talk about it. And now I know, that’s okay. Yeah, have your moment come to me if you need me.

Rob Clemons
That it’s it’s a powerful thing. And I think you you kind of the way you were explained to me is the the the people that have PTSD or, or whatever the diagnosis is, you know, your experience of things when you come out of the military, then you don’t feel like you can relate with other people out there.

Lori Beth Finley
Right.

Rob Clemons
And you told me some powerful stuff, because I just kind of wanted to talk about like, what do you what do you want somebody to know that’s in that because you’re living with somebody who’s experiencing it? What do you think are is kind of the way to, I guess, maybe cope with this situation?

Lori Beth Finley
Yeah.

Rob Clemons
What how do you go about this?

Lori Beth Finley
I would definitely say it’s easier said than done. But just the embarrassment of it. I know that he went through embarrassment of it, because he’s military boys. Just be all tough and…

Rob Clemons
Nothing affects me and all that stuff.

Lori Beth Finley
Exactly and they’re, they’re trained, literally trained to perceive life that way. But when you get into the civilian world, it’s just, it’s something that you can’t let go of that easy. And, I mean, I’m so thankful that he reached out when he did, because I don’t know where where he would be or where we would be at this point. But he had to understand not to be embarrassed by that, you know, and not to feel ashamed and not to feel broken. Just because he was experiencing these things did not make him broken and did not make him weak.

Rob Clemons
Yeah.

Lori Beth Finley
It made him it really humbled him more than anything and to be vulnerable doesn’t make you weak.

Rob Clemons
Oh absolutely not. And…

Lori Beth Finley
I’m glad that he finally saw that and reach out.

Rob Clemons
I think it’s important. No, you’re not alone. You’re not the only one who’s experiencing it. Right. And then you talk about, you talked about the fact that sometimes when you can step up and be that person to put yourself out there. Other people will say, “Wow, you too?” and then it kind of makes it easier, right?

Lori Beth Finley
It does make it easier. You know, I went through my own little bout when I had my baby and, and I, my mom was always such a strong woman, strong moms, she did everything. And I think I aspired to be like her. But for some reason my hormones didn’t work the same way. We’re different people, right? So I went through my own bout with it. And just I had to realize the more that I talked about it, kind of the easier it became and and the pressure kind of lit up. And I was like, I’m not alone. Because the more I would speak about my issues, or the more my husband’s talked about his issues, he’s made more friends. He was at the fire department back in Nashville, and, and he met other guys that had served in, you know, whatever branch, and he would get to talk to them about his issues, and they’d like me to. And so there was that connection through that, that I think, kind of lighten that load a little bit. You know, you make friends through those things and realize, Oh, I’m not the only one crying alone in my closet at two o’clock in the morning.

Rob Clemons
Yeah, right.

Lori Beth Finley
And now I can giggle about it. You know, and I’m not not that it’s a funny subject. But I literally can now look back at some of the darkest times we walk through together. Luckily, we walk together. And I can go, oh, you know that? We got through that. And we didn’t we weren’t alone. Yeah. Thank God, we weren’t alone.

Rob Clemons
No doubt about it, you know, and it’s really cool that you know, that he was able to get over that little hump. You guys could experience this together. And to be able to talk it out does is therapeutic.

Lori Beth Finley
It’s so therapeutic.

Rob Clemons
So are there any resources you would recommend to somebody who’s going through something. I know you mentioned church, but is there anything else?

Lori Beth Finley
Yeah. For me, I had a phenomenal church community back in Nashville. I’m sure I’ll find one here as well. But I just the people there were just so non judgmental.

Rob Clemons
Yeah.

Lori Beth Finley
And they just made me feel free. And like I could say anything, even if I was having a bad day, and, and trust me, I was raised in a church, no cussing. While I’m in the show business, and there’s a little bit of cursing.

Rob Clemons
Little bit of customer cursing.

Lori Beth Finley
But you know, even that, I would talk to the Pastor and I would have those days and F bombs would fly to my mouth. And normally from where I’m from, and what I was raised in like, “Uh Oh, don’t you do that? That’s that’s bad.” But um,

Rob Clemons
I still can’t curse them for all mom. This is true.

Lori Beth Finley
But I get the eye. I get the iron in my my maiden. Last name is Hogan. And so she’ll go Lori Beth Hogan. And I know at that point, again, I will ground myself.

Rob Clemons
I will bid you a good evening, and…

Lori Beth Finley
Nothing for Christmas, got it. Um, but no, he made me feel so free. And like, I could just be me. And being me, was completely okay. That’s what set me apart. And that’s what was gonna help me help others. And that’s, that’s my whole goal. And anything that I do in even in music and singing, and I was a songwriter, and I just always wanted to connect people and like, Go, you’re not alone. And you be you. And I told you, I never I didn’t I didn’t want to go by Lori Beth when I was little, because it was like, Oh my gosh, it’s so different. Everybody else has got one name and my mom is like, but being different is awesome. You know, like, be you that’s that’s who you are. You’re Laurie bed. And so I finally went back to Lori Beth after going to Lori for a very short while and realize like over time, as I got older people like, oh, Lori Beth, that’s a great country singer and a man. It really works in my benefit Nashville. You know, I just I own who I am at this point, like school. Whatever, judge me, that’s who I am. I can’t help it.

Rob Clemons
That’s super cool. Well, as we get towards the backside of this program, and it’s been amazing today and a lot, a lot of great advice. What What would you want anybody to know about you? Is there any one thing that you say? Look, I want this on my tombstone one day? Oh, my sides, you know, any whatever rap song you want to play? Or whatever?

Lori Beth Finley
Lil John was here. I would probably say, Gosh, Mom, it’s so like, I cannot even take that. I’m going to say this because my priorities have changed so much since becoming a mom. But I think I told you earlier too. We were talking and I did not want to be for a long time. I was like, I don’t want to be Lori Beth singer. I struggled with that for so long, because I’ve been in the business since I was 12. I won’t say how old I am. Am I my 30s. And just I’ve been in it so long, but it became Laurie about the singer Laurie, but the singer would show up at church. Will you sing for us? Will you sing here? And so I was like, I want to be Lori Beth like why don’t people see the heart of me and what’s inside, you know? And then I became a mom. And so my identity changed and I was like, gosh, I don’t mind being less about the singer now, but I want to be Lori Beth the mom, like, the really good mom. Like,

Rob Clemons
That’s cool.

Lori Beth Finley
I want my daughter to be like, you know, my mom was so cool. And she’s been on the stage and she she dances, I’m tearing up thinking about it. But um, I want her to be like, my mom was so dedicated to me. You know, she, but she also took care of herself.

Rob Clemons
Yeah.

Lori Beth Finley
Because we half to take care of ourselves too, as moms and I think that’s, that’s often while we go down that that postpartum route is we forget to take care of ourselves. Okay, so when I got back into music, I was like, Okay, I’m gonna show her. You can do both. Yeah, you can do both.

Rob Clemons
Absolutely.

Lori Beth Finley
And I guess there’s that point of realization where you spend so much time building yourself up, and then you realize it’s more than justmore than about me, I want to I want to touch her and I want her to see, you know, power in being herself.

Rob Clemons
That’s so cool. A that’s and that’s great tips for everybody. You know, so I think that’s awesome stuff. You know, and this is, like I said, it’s been a great, great time talking with you. We’re gonna be at the Home show this coming weekend. Myrtle Beach Home Show. So we would love to have you come by and see us.

Lori Beth Finley
I’ll try my best. I love all things home. Yeah.

Rob Clemons
Oh my gosh, you’ll see so much stuff in it. And then when you see the booth we’re in, it’s out there.

Lori Beth Finley
My husband’s gonna just kill me.

Rob Clemons
Yes, get your checkbook out or whatever.

Lori Beth Finley
You know him your wallet.

Rob Clemons
That’s awesome. Well, you are at the Alabama theater. Come see her out here. Lori Beth family. Amazing stuff. Appreciate you being on with us today.

Lori Beth Finley
And my pleasure.

Rob Clemons
All right. Well,we’re happy to have you again. Sometimes I should do it. Let’s do it. Sounds good. This has been Rob Clemens. I’m signing our crown connections. Thank you guys for listening.

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